Sex Education

As promised we wanted to give all of the parents in our congregation some tools to help you deal with your children regarding the issue of sex. The staff at Cowboy Fellowship realizes that this is a difficult subject for both parents and children to discuss.  However, this is one of the most important topics for families today.  With the endless temptations and sexual myths that have invaded our society, we desperately need to help protect our children.  It is tempting to lock them in their rooms and seclude them from the world for 20-30 years (LOL) but of course that is not practical.  So instead the best way to protect them is to educate them on all the important issues of life including sex. This blog contains some helpful information, but don't forget that we (the staff) are always available and willing to help in any way we can.  Call on us if you need us.
My children are currently ages 2 years, and 6 weeks.  So needless to say we have not had to talk about sex much.  However, my two year old has started asking questions about his body parts, and why "daddy kisses momma" etc.  Research is showing that sex education needs to begin sooner, rather than later.  So here are some helpful hints that can be used at all ages with both boys and girls.

1. Use the Bible- The Bible speaks God's truth into our lives on all subject matters including sex.  Talk about sex with your children in the context of what God's word says on the subject, not what mom or dad say.  There are both positive and negative sexual examples in God's word and many teachable moments in common Biblical stories. So mom and dad this means that you need to read your Bible, so that when the time comes, you are able to incorporate God's word into your sex education program with your children. 
2. Be honest-  Of course judgment needs to be used when dealing with children of different ages.  But don't lie to your kids or make things up.  If you don't think your child needs to know that specific answer, just be honest and tell them that for now they don't need to know that but when the time comes you will help inform them. 
3. Be available- make sure your children understand that talking to you about sex is always ok.  Never make them feel like you are uninterested or unwilling to approach the subject.  If you do they will learn from their friends and their peers who they date.  No parent wants that. 
4. Be proactive- Don't wait for your children to bring the subject up, you are the parent and God has given you the responsibility to educate your kids.  Of course, younger children like my 2 year old, naturally ask many questions on all subjects.  But as kids grow older they will be less willing to approach difficult subjects such as sex with their parents. 
5. Be positive- Make sure that your children understand that God's moral standard of abstinence is a blessing not a curse.  Help them to see all of the benefits to following God's laws in all areas of their lives including sex. 
6. Be a role model- We must set a good example for our children to follow.  If we disobey God in this or any other area we should not be surprised when our children do as well.  If you have previously messed up confess your sins to God and your children (if it is appropriate at their age) and receive God's grace, mercy, and forgiveness.  Move on and set an example from then on that your children can follow.

If you want even more information about this subject I would recommend that you visit the area of Focus on the Family's website which deals with this specific issue.  I would also recommend that all parents read Bringing Up Boys, and Bringing Up Girls by Dr. James Dobson. He has many other resources and books available regarding children as well.  If you want to view all of them you can click on his name above. 
Once again please know that we are praying for you and we desire to help you in this and all areas concerning your family.  If there is anything we can do please do not hesitate to contact us.